Define your Popular

My mom when I talk to her about school and how people are defined in groups basically she is like well aren't you popular and I'm like no mom no I'm not popular and she is always like well define your popular. So here goes nothing. To me popular is about your personality more than the group of people you hang out with, Popular is about what you mean to your friends. The way the world defines popular is by who you are friends with, your hair, your shoes, the way you dress and a lot of other stupid stuff. As I went into high school I realized that there really aren't the groups that you had in middle school, I mean yeah they are there but you can't really see it, theater kids are friends with cheerleaders, Band kids and color guard girls are friends with the dance team, everyone doesn't really belong to a certain group, I mean you belong to an organization but you have friends outside that group also.
I asked some kids at my school to define what being popular meant to them and how they would define it. Here is some feed back:
"having a lot of genuine friends and just being an out going person in general" -Taylor

" To me being popular means everyone knows who you are and you are liked by almost everyone you know" -Veronica

"Popular is everyone knows who you are and everyone wants to be your friend because of your status" - Arianna

"You know a lot of people that talk good about you and they are all your friends." - Alyssa

"My definition of popular is not if you're like on the football team or cheer team it's about how many people like you and if you're respectful to the people who do like you or maybe even don't really like you. And that you can be popular without being well known." -Anna

 

" Probably like people look up to you. You have lots of friends and you're well liked" - Kylie

When I asked these people to define their popular and what popular means there were some answers that were the same and some different. I really like Anna's response to the question because what she said is what people in my generation don't get. They don't get that is doesn't matter if you are head cheerleader or head football captain yes of course you should be happy, but to a certain extent that you don't go and change your whole out look on life. So many teenagers change them selves just to fit in with the popular crowd. what is the point? I promise every girl and boy and teenagers out there that those people who you call friends in your little "popular" group, half of them talk about you behind your back, so why waste your time trying to be a person they want you to be when you can be friends with people who actually care about you and won't talk to you behind your back. Define your popular. Is it about looks, what position you are on a team? or is it personality, true friends that will stand by you when times are hard? Define your popular not the worlds popular.